If the initial stage of falling in love is chemical and crazy and obsessive, then it must be known that once that wears off love is a choice. You choose every day whether or not you are going to fulfill your spouse’s love tank. This choice is especially prominent when spouses speak different love languages and have to put in a lot more effort to meet the language needs.
Just because you love your spouse doesn’t mean you aren’t going to make mistakes. We choose to love our partners even after they have said or done painful things. Everyone errs, everyone has days in which they are not the best versions of themselves. Those days are probably the ones that we need to dig the deepest and try to fill our spouse’s love tanks just a little bit more than we usually do.
Love and marriages can be reborn. It takes a conscious effort to commit to loving one another, even if we aren’t sure we love them anymore, to move forward.