Knowing your love language is important as well. You can’t expect your spouse to fill your love tank if you don’t know what to ask of them. Many times people go looking for love in all the wrong places because their tank is empty and they are desperate to feel any kind of love. We see this in children who act out; in teens that have unprotected sex, in adults who cheat on their spouses; all do to the fact that their loves tanks are empty and they don’t know how to fill them, and seemingly neither do the people around them. Filling our partner’s tanks, and having our’s overflowing, are the primary goals in learning the love languages.